BE KIND TO YOURSELF SIS!

Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy.... Do you love yourself ?

So when i asked my friend Tafara what self love looks like to her, her response was absolutely beautiful.

"Self love is something i hold dear to my heart. My mom has always said to me “be kind to yourself” and the older i got, the more i understood what she meant. It’s taking time to know who i am, what i like what i don't like and always being true to myself.  It has become a principle of doing the right thing, treating people with kindness and always trying your best to leave people better than you found them, self love for me is taking time to myself, saying no if i don’t want to do something I’m not okay with. self love for me is not looking to society for love but to genuinely love who i am and who i was created to be. self love is an on going journey of finding yourself and embracing all your flaws because those make you, you. always be kind to yourself and others."

HOW DOES ONE FIND THEMSELVES?

Being yourself and being that person all the time can be pretty daunting and frustrating. Firstly sis you have to figure out "who you are" the question that every human being asks consistently throughout life. Then to add to the pressure, you must be authentic in the midst of trends, peer influence, and deliver that authenticity into your businesses and goals. Now i know every woman reading this has lost the plot at some point in their journey, either through fitness body goals, talent expression, FINE-man drama or in spheres of influence.

YUP TRYNA BE A COOL KID DOESN'T STOP AT ADOLESCENTS MAMA!!!

This is where the collision between who we are and who 'they are' begins. We Already Know that we must be our authentic selves but we can hardly answer the question how?

We dont know where to start in finding ourselves and how to practice authenticity. This is the very reason i started this blog, to empower women in being authentic, and WHOLE in mind, spirit and body.

"IF YOU DO NOT STAND FOR SOMETHING, YOU WILL FALL FOR EVERYTHING" - SOMEONE SMART!!

So my first wisdom nugget to you is, to be your authentic self the first thing you need to do is have an opinion. Perhaps i was not loud enough the first time, what i said is YOU NEED TO HAVE AN OPINION!

Today's generation of women do not share their opinion when it goes against the grain and asks them to stand up for themselves and their beliefs. How many times have you erased a post because its not a part of trending topics, How many times have you neglected to speak up on a matter close to your heart because it is not a popular opinion? Do not be that woman who agrees with everything by word of mouth when your intuition and gut disagree. Stop confining your emotions and your thoughts by saying phrases like "it's fine" when it is not. When topics come up that go against your beliefs, voice those thoughts out. Now i understand fully that sometimes one must hold their tongue, girl i talk a lot so i know that a lot of the time i come on too strong. We will get to that where we talk about discernment, however today's topic is centered on empowering women with a spine!

I love practical application, so in every single blog i post i will always hand you a practical activity that will encourage you to practice some of the elements we discuss. This weeks activity is simple, note i said simple not easy. Every time someone asks you this week "Girl how you doing?" reply with the truth. This will show you how well you can think past the conventional responses we have been taught to use. If you are hungry in that moment say it, if you are frustrated say it, if you want to scream say it. You could also post something outrageous and turn away from the likes and comments, because mama you dont need validation for your thought's and feelings

Get Inspired

Let go of who you think you need to be and be who you actually are, sis i dare you to take off the mask of perfection and show up as you are. Feel the freedom of going against the narrative, feel the relief and lightness. when we are real that's when we heal and those around just might be inspired to heal too. This is all from your girl for this week, and until next time stay blessed, unstressed and excellence obsessed.